Lifelook offers a fresh way to live more attentively, blending timeless philosophy, modern science, and everyday wonder into a living reflection of life’s unfolding.
Here, slowing down becomes a way of attending—moving with change, recognizing it not as something to overcome, but as a living field we participate in, shape, and are shaped by.
Through stories, frameworks, and quiet provocations, Lifelook invites you to wayfind a life of clarity, courage, and gentle abiding—one conscious moment at a time.
What is Lifelook?
Lifelook is the way we choose to live through our values, our perceptions, and our attention. It's an intentional and integrated perspective on living.
It grows from mornings, missteps, and quiet returns to what matters.
It’s the shape of your seeing—the way you meet life’s beauty, absurdity, and unpredictability.
It’s the values we return to when things get strange. The quiet principles that show up not just in what we say, but in what we do—how we treat ourselves, friends, and strangers, how we handle the undone, how we sit with uncertainty, how we hold silence, how we move forward when clarity hides, how we question when certainty hardens. It grows out of experience, conditioning, deconditioning, learning, unlearning, questions, care, and the way we notice what matters.
We all have our own lifelook. The practice is to notice it. The gift is to live with it, consciously. Being aware of being aware encourages a soft urgency to try and figure it out.
Choice Colors the View
We may not choose what arrives, yet we always choose how to attend, how to respond, and how to carry meaning forward.
Lifelook draws from the wisdom of Stoicism, the flow of Taoism, existential clarity, and insights from modern psychology. Every act of presence makes a choice—one that colors perspective and shapes the quality of each day.
How we choose to spend our time, where we choose to allow attention, and what we choose to care about most—all become brushstrokes in our lifelook. Each mark deepens our awareness and brings us closer to recognizing that awareness attends to itself.
Lifelook remains a practice: attend with care, respond with presence, and carry meaning forward. Moment by moment, you shape your lifelook through what you choose to bring.
Why Lifelook?
Thanks for asking.
Lifelook began with a series of questions I couldn’t shake:
What if consciousness isn’t just a product of the brain, but the field in which experiences emerge, the field we live within? What if values aren’t just ethical traits, but tools for presence and alignment? What if meaning doesn’t arrive fully formed, but emerges in the moment we choose to attend?
This project lives at the intersection of philosophy and daily life. It draws from Stoicism, Taoism, Existentialism, psychology, neuroscience, spiritual insights, storytelling, and bedtime conversations with my children. It doesn’t promise clarity. It suggests rhythm. A way to move as change, rather than brace against it as something separate.
I’m building Lifelook for the curious—for those who ask more than they answer. And yes, for the agents and editors seeking voices that invite readers not to escape life, but to step more fully into it.
Lifelook is a framework. A scaffold. A way of looking—and living—that grows clearer the more you practice it.
What Shapes our Lifelook?
Most of us live with ideas we’ve inherited, borrowed, or patched together. We say we value kindness, or resilience, or honesty—but haven’t always examined what that means in real time. Lifelook helps us do that—not to box things in, but to reveal what’s already there.
This is more than having answers. It’s about shaping our orientation through different questions.
Lifelook helps us move with uncertainty, not master it. It reminds us that clarity can arise even when confidence hides.
To begin to see our seeing is to begin to know ourselves.
It evolves through experience, reflection, and relationship. It holds memory and momentum—and yet greets each moment anew. Values, perception, cosmology, and care all move through it. It grows in rhythm.
What Lifelook Offers
- A way to reflect without fixing
- A rhythm for navigating uncertainty
- A field to meet your own values
- A sense of direction without rigidity
Lifelook Is Already with You
You don’t need to build it from scratch.
You already live into it.
The work is to return to it. With clarity. With attention. With care.
Where is Yours Already Living?
These reflection prompts may help you begin to clarify your own lifelook:
- What do I return to when life feels unclear?
- Which small actions give me a sense of meaning?
- What values show up in how I treat others? Myself?
- What is this in service to?
Where Mine Began
This didn’t begin as a writing project. It began with a question from my six-year-old. A question that pulled something unnamed to the surface. He asked me, "what's our book?"
I realized I had been living a philosophy—quietly, daily—but hadn’t named it, hadn't fully examined it through the art of storytelling.
Writing became my way for clarifying what I had already been living. My attempt to articulate the implied.
This page, this book, this site—are all part of this incomplete, and beautifully imperfect process.
Attending The Days
Attending the Days blog grew from a quiet practice—pausing to notice, reflecting without rushing, and writing to remember what matters. It’s not a productivity hack. It’s not a perfect system. It’s an act of presence.
If you’ve ever found yourself lingering on a moment you didn’t expect to matter—or wondering why the simplest experiences stay with you long after—they’re probably trying to tell you something. This blog tries to listen.
Here I share thoughtful reflections, grounded philosophy, and gentle provocations for living with clarity and meaning. Each post invites us to meet the world with Perception, Aware Action, and Alignment—three steady companions in an otherwise restless world.
Whether you’re stepping into adulthood or midlife, parenting with wonder, chasing clarity through complexity, or simply paying closer attention—this space welcomes your questions.
If you've felt at home with Oliver Burkeman’s wry insight or Manson’s no-nonsense honesty, you may already belong here.